THE VALIDATING MENTOR
INTRODUCTION
THOUGHTS TO
PONDER
· Nobody rises to low expectations.
-Unknown
· The road to success is always under construction. -Arnold
Palmer
· Look at a man the way he is, and he only become worse. Look at
him as if he were what he could be, and then he becomes what he
should be. -Johann Goethe
· Success is not counted by how high you have climbed but by how
many you have brought with you. -Will Rose
· To mentor means to assist a valued mentoree move from where he or
she is to where he or she wants to go. -Unknown
· Mentoring is about two people of different ages and backgrounds,
talking together and learning from each other. -Kaplan/Newsweek
guide on "How to Be a GREAT MENTOR."
· In the 2003 State of the Union Address, President Bush said,
"Government will support the training and recruiting of mentors,
yet it is the men and women of America who will fill the need. One
mentor, one person, can change a life forever--and I urge you to be
that one person."
· A research study provided these results on mentoring. "Children
who met with a mentor three times a month for one year were 46
percent less likely to begin using illegal drugs, 27 percent
decrease in initiating alcohol use, 37 percent decrease in lying to
parents, 52 percent less likely to skip school, and 33 percent less
likely to get into fights." (Statistics from a nationwide review of
Big Brother/Big Sister's Programs by Tierney & Grossman)
· Why has mentoring grown into a social movement supported by
government, schools, businesses and religious institutions alike?
Because it works.
· Recognize that a mentor is a caring and concerned person. A
mentor is a listener and a guide.
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If you would like to mentor someone or start a mentoring program in
your community, this book is for you. You will learn, step-by-step,
how to be an effective mentor. You will also find a section you can
give to the person being mentored. Everything you need to be an
effective mentor is contained in this one book.
In Maslow’s Heirarchy of Needs, he states that the first
needs people have are food and shelter--survival basics. The second
group of needs are safety and security. Most of us have these basic
elements in our lives in one degree or another.
Validational Mentors come in at the third and fourth levels. The
third need or desire everybody has is to be accepted, or validated,
by someone or some group. Acceptance may only be available through
membership in a gang or in a choir group or by peers or teachers
and/or parents. In one way or another, people young and old will
gravitate toward a source of validation. Validation is a human
need, and this is where being a Scarlett mentor comes into
play.
The fourth level is making a difference. With the help of mentors
following the 16-week Scarlett Foundation course, students will be
at the point where they can make a difference--in their own lives
and in the lives of those for whom they care.
The philosophy of “validational mentoring” recommends
five specific provisions: (1) providing a safe
atmosphere--physically and mentally (no insults, no making someone
wrong), (2) validating students through their efforts, (3)
establishing relevance in their assignments, and (4) building on
their successes. This philosophy of learning also (5) introduces
the element of fun, a guaranteed way to encourage learning and
growth.
Under the appropriate conditions, validational mentoring can be the
foundation for (1) improved self esteem and (2) self concept, and
(3) improved interpersonal skills. These benefits are not so
surprising if one looks closely at the concepts inherent in
validational learning and the principles of human nature. They
compliment each other nicely.
Validational mentoring means taking a personal interest in a
student, supporting the paths the student takes. It means helping
the student strive throward his/her highest aspirations, not only
in career but also in the pursuit of happiness in their lives. A
Validational mentor wants to share his/her knowledge and
experiences in hope that their protege will reach a high level of
achievement. A Validational mentor will promote the importance of
responsibility both at home and away from it. A Validational mentor
cares about the well-being of himself and his family, and models
the behavior he/she wants their students to follow.
Table
of Contents
Introduction
Purpose
Chapter 1. Why Validational Learning?
Chapter 2. Reading and Writing Skills
Chapter 3. Motivational Learning
Chapter 4. Self Esteem/Values
Chapter 5. Interpersonal Skills
Chapter 6. Why Validational Learning Works
Chapter 7. Conclusion
Works Cited and Referenced
Appendixes
A. References
B. Congratulations
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